Comic Relief Vs Difficult Times

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The media has inundated us with coverage of the US election campaign especially Donald Trump’s diatribes which are much like dog and pony show performances.

Although I do take having a social conscience very seriously, I really can’t take politicians very seriously, and it’s never where I’d put my faith.

It seems those who are watching and are paying attention to politics,  spend a good deal of time providing comic relief in order to combat that which has been described as being the hysteria of the masses. This may provide some comfort and provides a few laughs, but after the laughs are over, what then?

The serenity prayer immediately comes to mind because after all is said and done, this is the only real relief that will bring happiness in the long run.

Hopefully there are lessons to be learned by Canadians watching, as the US continues go further down into the political dumper. In the mean time, I’ll keep saying that serenity prayer.

The World

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The World

“The world is increasingly designed to depress us. Happiness isn’t very good for the economy. If we were happy with what we had, why would we need more? How do you sell an anti-ageing moisturizer? You make someone worry about aging. How do you get people to vote for a political party? You make them worry about immigration. How do you get them to buy insurance? By making them worry about everything. How do you get them to have plastic surgery? By highlighting their physical flaws. How do you get them to watch a T.V. show? By making the worry about missing one.How do you get them to buy a new smart phone? By making them feel like the are being left behind.To be calm becomes a kind of revolutionary act. To be happy with your own non-upgraded existence. To be comfortable, messy, human selves, would not be good for business.”

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Never having read Eckhart Tolle  I am not familiar with any of his self-help books. Oh I know Oprah raved about him and I have known other that speak so highly of him and his wisdom. I can’t say exactly what that wisdom is but I assume it is directly related to living life in the present and to our full capacity. I am always a little skeptic of the latest self-help trend especially when it’s toted by big media hype, and public figures.

Today a friend posted this quote form a book and without me knowing who wrote it, I was struck but the message. After doing a bit of digging I found out it is from The New Earth, a book written by Eckhart Tolle. 

I will say that no one “makes” us do anything. We all have a choice, we decide what we do or don’t do. I refuse to let the world depress me, but saying that, I haven’t bought into the things mentioned in this Eckhart Tolle quote.

I am happy with my non-upgraded, and comfortable, messy, human self.

 

Albert Einstein said the definition of insanity is doing something over and over again and expecting the same result.

I stopped doing this 22 years ago and that’s brought me much happiness.

 

Horses and Happiness

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I don’t think there are many little girls who don’t long and dream of having for a horse. I was no different. But it wasn’t until I became an adult until I could fulfill this dream for myself, because I came to realize I was the only one responsible for my own happiness. No person place or thing can make us happy. These can certainly add to our happiness, but ultimately happiness is an inside job, as they say.

Children seem to be inherently happy until the introduction to unmet needs become apparent and the sense of self is more developed, and then they can loose their way.

Animals intrinsically add to a child’s happiness, and I can say this from experience growing up with animals. They have continued to greatly add to my happiness.

I feel badly for those who have missed out on the unconditional love of animals growing up, or have had bad experiences with a dog that has bitten them or some other negative animal encounter.

Can Praxis , a wonderful organization that provides Equine Therapy to Vets with PTSD, and other kinds of animal therapies demonstrate the healing power of animals to effectively increase and add to an individuals happiness and healing.

The highlighted word horse will link you to a beautiful touching video of a little girl and her loving interactions with a pony.

 

 

Are My Relationships Making Me Happy and Healthy?

 

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TED Talks are something I’ve really enjoyed watching for a number of years now, and I’ve found many of them very informative and insightful.

One of my good friends from University posted this today, stating that she has also watched many of the talks, but found this TED talk by psychiatrist Robert Waldinger to be the best one she had seen to date. After I watched it, I understood why she said that, and I think I have to agree, if not the best, it’s one of the most important for people to watch.

I’ve long believed that relationships are what life is all about, and the most important  thing about being a happy healthy human being. The 75 year study that Dr. Waldinger has participated in, bares witness to this fact.

During the special holidays such as Easter, we become more poignantly, and sometimes even painfully aware of how important our relationships are as we gather together or not.

Sadly the reality is today there are increasingly more people who are alone and lonely, whether through circumstances beyond their control, or because they have chosen to isolate themselves in one way or another for a myriad of reasons. This leads to unhappiness and ill health. If we can make an effort to reach out to another in love, this can make all the difference, to not only to someone else’s happiness and health, but also to our own health and happiness.

We need to take care not to take our relationships for granted and need to make them relationships of quality, and substance. It will surely make for a happier and healthier world.

 

 

 

Big Brothers

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Today is a sad day for me.  I am remembering my late big brother, Guru Ralph, who died 14 years ago at the age of 59, and he’d be 73 on this day March 26th. It’s hard for me to talk about, painful and all, but I think it’s always therapeutic to talk about difficult feelings instead of keeping them bottled up. I had a life time of that, and it’s toxic to always keep painful feelings suppressed.

From the get-go my brother was always my hero. Once I hit puberty though we came to logger heads. He was very protective naturally, being a ten years older. But I was having none of it once I hit my teens. Not him or any one else was going to tell me what to do. I was a sixties wild child.

Our age difference meant, he grew up in the 50s and was a die hard greaser. Black and white t-shirts,  blue jeans with cuffs, Converse running shoes, Brill Cream,  shirt sleeves with his smokes rolled up in them, Rock & Roll music and the whole deal. I was the opposite, or so I thought.. I was what I call a fringe hippie, not quite old enough to be a full fledged hippie, but I was determined to try hard to be one.

I learned so many things from my brother Ralph and especially once I became an adult. He taught me by example, how to live life with grace, humour, humility, strength, and courage in the face of adversity.

We always had a laugh about his nickname Guru Ralph because he’d come up with these crazy sayings, like ” Do unto others , then beat it.”

Many years ago when I was young and foolish, I resented him trying to tell me what to do, now I wished my big brother was around to do just that, because he lived up to his nickname, Guru Ralph, in lots of ways. He was full of wisdom. My big brother Ralph was the best brother a little sister could ever have,  I’ll miss him always, and he’ll always be my hero.

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How Dirt Makes Me Happy

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There is nothing that makes me happier quite like gardening, and growing seeds to transplant into my garden in the Spring. My little grow mat warms my seeds quickly germinating them and really works like a charm, giving me about a two to three week jump on the season.

Gardening works like a charm too because it awakens our primal urge to connect with the earth and uniting with nature. Getting outdoors into the fresh air, exposing ourselves to the sun, gives us our much needed Vitamin D.

The microbe Mycobacterium vaccae  releases serotonin, the happy chemical in our brain, a natural anti-depressant and strengthens the immune system, and mirrors the effect on neurons in our brain the way Prozac does.

Individuals with Dementia have been known to benefit form gardening, lessening anxiety, depression and aggression. It is seen as being a preventative measure against the disease as well.

It has been reported in one survey that 80% of those who garden say they are happy and satisfied with their lives compared to 67% of non-gardeners.

Gardening makes me feel grounded. Grounding or earthing is an actual thing we can do by throwing off our shoes. It brings us back to a neutral balanced state when we make direct contact with the earth’s surface that has negative ions. These rush into our bodies discharging numerous unpaired positive ions, or free radicals we pick up every day.

Dirt makes me happy!

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